This is the continuation is a count from the academic and feminist activist Maureen C. McHugh, a university professor of psychology of women and psychology of human sexuality for 25 years, what women want sex:
1. The women want agency have [i] sexual
The concept of sexual subjectivity for a woman involves herself experienced as a sexual being, get in touch with their own sexual desire .
contemporary analysis of the experiences of sexuality of adolescents suggest that they are denied sexual subjectivity, are the object of desire, but are supposed to be or should be "innocent and not wanting sex "This would be a sort of" Lost Speech of desire. "
Desire is part of our being embodied and relational desire connects us to our bodies and at the same time connects us to others and others. But for girls, the desire is not recognized or seen as dangerous.
"When one is treated as the object of the desires of others, and is itself as such, the ability even to meet their own needs and desires is weakened." This is self-objectification, experienced as an object of desire, not as a sexual subject you want.
is likely that failure to provide girls with an address by the desire to put them in positions of vulnerability, even dangerous. Sexualized images of young women around us, but the sexual desire of one's children and adolescents is not shown before.
If a girl has desires, it is vulnerable to physical and emotional consequences.
studies reported that it was unusual for a child will report that would go further than her male boyfriend, instead, the girls in their study negotiated their progressive involvement in sexual activity in exchange for commitment. All this is tremendously sad, these girls have zero power and may not, but only compromise and negotiate, this is extremely unfair, and usually are many relationships of young women, for example those hallway conversations that deal with as "keep you interested, but not pressed to keep away" (I've been there.)
The girls are introduced to fairy tales and romances, at an early age, and the emphasis on idealized romantic relationships becomes stronger as the child develops. We teach girls to wear makeup and make themselves attractive to men. Do not teach them to recognize their own desire or what to do with this. We socialize girls into the practice of femininity conceals and denies their sexual desires. The educators for submission.
Thus, there is research that documents the inequities of power in relationships and sexual experiences that are male-centric-that is organized around the needs, desires and interests of children, combined with the absence a positive conception of female sexuality.
Girls are taught that they need to attract male approval to succeed in this culture, and also teaches them to attract men is a dangerous practice. Femininity as a cultural practice or performance is necessary to maintain the institution of heterosexuality, and finally works to maintain the patriarchy. We teach girls that being submissive is the way to succeed.
There is a tremendous heterosexual bias in our constructions of female sexuality and of course, lesbians do not exist in the cultural map. Many and many, especially feminists see maps sexual trip provided by popular culture as "unsuccessful, showing the highway to heterosexual marriage, penile-vaginal intercourse, raising children (as) and loss of sexuality as they age."
other men and women also have also commented on the emphasis on pleasing and accessible to men. Making beauty a major cultural mandate.
In this culture a woman experiences very real limits to what can be said about their sexuality without being censored or exploited, but talking about sexuality can create the possibility in a woman's chance to live a joyful and creative sex life.
CAMBODIAN / HOOKER / RELEASE / FRESH / EASY / HOT
Women with sexual vitality are denigrated because they have too much desire to meet the standards "normalcy" provided by our culture. These women are often labeled as "whores / Loose," "seductive," and "women who love too much."
Puta / release is a label often used to control teens at school. In Slut! Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation / Puta! Growing Women Bad Reputation (Tannenbaum, 1999 ) The text exposes the double standard by offering an extensive analysis of the conditions under which women are labeled sluts / whores.
Unlike other forms of provocation, slut-bashing/el social rejection because it is considered too sexually aggressive have unique consequences. In order to avoid appearing sexually aggressive and therefore acquire the slut label / release, girls may refrain from expressing their individual sexual encounters. This leads to interactions in which sex is neither complete nor completely consensual forced, but something in between "
The double standard and / or fear of being labeled as a slut / whore can also stop young women to protect themselves against pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.
sexual criticisms are used as weapons to keep young women conform to social norms, fashion, class and sex. Slut and other insults are used to perpetuate the double standard and the dichotomy of good girls and bad girls.
Pictures: Isabel Samaras
Reference:
Maureen C. McHugh (1006). What Do Women Want? A New View Of Women's Sexual Problems. Sex Roles (2006) 54:361-369.
[i] The 'agency' staff has q ue about the ability of an individual to act or be empowered to make something, but this concept also makes sense that a person, if you will, can act on their own, doing things, own destiny and decisions without asking others or a god. So, although not a translation of a word, "AGENCY" could be read as "the willingness (or ability) to act autonomously"
