Presentation of "The Religious Sense 'of Luigi Giussani by Carrón
Don Julian Carron presents "The Religious Sense 'in the monastery of Sao Bento, in the heart of Sao Paulo, Brazil. Some forty cities in Brazil but some countries of Latin America, continue the meeting by video conference.
Friday, April 29, 2011
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Tooth Polisher Electric
Safe Sex for Survivors of Sexual Abuse Part 4 Sex and Power
By Chris Somerville
SUPPORT Taken from fanzine on sale in the Bazaar or by Internet Goddesses http://www.dorisdorisdoris.com/zinecatag.html .
If you decide to have sex with someone. Congratulations! You are very brave. Now the trick is to figure have sex in a way that is not destructive to you or your partner. The first decision is whether or not to tell your partner that you are being abused. You may not feel secure enough that you know everything. What you choose to tell, though much whatever you want to reveal, you must be very skilled to examine first the waters and see where they begin to leak information. For example, explaining that they want certain things about sex because they are a provocative or need to set certain limits on sex. If he is inquisitive in the way they react when you tell the story is likely to ask more questions and from there you can decide how secure you feel about talking about those things. If you do not feel safe to talk about it then maybe you should not have sex with that person. You need to connect with your power and set your boundaries with your new partner before having sex in a relationship or if you're in an initial sexual phase.
If you do or you may end up participating in a nasty sex scene and feel unable to talk about it.
A particular power dynamic is that we simply do not feel able to have sex. There will be times when you do not want to have sex and your partner if, or perhaps you want to have sex in your mind but your body will not allow it.
This is frustrating for any person, but vital to pay attention to these messages and accept them. If you intend to ignore that pressure can be your partner or yourself can cause you serious harm. SEX SEX IS NOT JUST FOR U.S.. If you have been abused / or your sexual relationship will be like for someone who has not suffered.
For fellow victims I have something to say, if you want to have sex and your partner does not feel the same, no matter what it may seem sudden, leave it alone. Try not to feel rejected because this is not for you, do not key in your hate, not angry. Is not the point to be near this person? Ask yourself what would happen if you had A orgasm had sex it hurt and relive the trauma in the other? That should be obvious.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Sunday, April 24, 2011
How Long Wait To Shower After Wax
Safe Sex for Survivors of Sexual Abuse Part 3 TOCATA YOURSELF
By Chris Somerville
SUPPORT Taken from fanzine on sale in the Bazaar or by Internet Goddesses http://www.dorisdorisdoris.com/zinecatag . html .
not underestimate the power of positive relationships with masturbation. It's a way to explore your ability to have a positive relationship with your body, and can be a great way to support you to yourself. Masturbation sexually leaves us to focus on us themselves, rather than treat sex as a service to another person. Nobody tells you what they want, your desires are the ones that take into account. This can help you recognize that you are entitled to your own needs.
As people who have survived sexual abuse of children, our first experience with sex was determined by someone else. As we learned from the beginning that it should be sex, we tend to mimic those patterns in our relationships. If nothing more we explore our sexuality when we are with another person or our own desire to please someone else, confuse the desires of our partners with our own desires.
When we return the focus to ourselves through masturbation, the body learns to find one's desire. Through fantasy and touching you in different ways, and then trying with another person, you find more information and ideas about what you want and that makes you attractive.
also, importantly, if you have fantasies of rape or think molesting children is a good idea to have fantasies about it while you masturbate. You have to admit it and masturbating is a good way, because then you do on your own terms, one hundred percent. If you do not recognize these desires, and refuse, they become dangerous. If you masturbate while thinking that you are raped, that rape, child abuse or anything else gives you more like it, you take the next step and talk to someone for help.
I think most people who have survived sexual abuse need to develop a routine or ritual to work about the abuse. Masturbation gives us the opportunity to heal the body mind.
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
How Long Can U Have Trichomoniasis Before U Know
Safe Sex for Survivors of Sexual Abuse Part 2 LIMITS
By Chris Somerville Taken from the fanzine
SUPPORT for sale in the Bazaar of the Goddess or online http://www.dorisdorisdoris.com/zinecatag.html .
can not always choose your limits. The limits tend to settle on their own and work that remains is to challenge them gently as possible. We should be honest with ourselves about what we want, what we are willing to do and what we are unwilling to budge. These are our limits. We base
limits on what we know we need, on sex and relationships, without exception. Naturally, much depends upon where you are. The following are examples of some limitations:
I can not get involved with someone who likes S & M because I know that I can re-traumatize.
just want to have sex with close friends, I can not be in a serious relationship dating now.
relationship with my partner to be monogamous because I find it a long time, careful attention, and trust to create a secure connection that lets me be sexual, then allow another person to engage would be a desecration.
I have to be non-monogamous relationships because any limit imposed on I my life or my sexuality made me feel reminds me trapped and control within the abuse.
I can not be in a relationship with someone who has survived sexual abuse. I can barely with my life, I can not take someone else's.
My partner must be a person who has survived sexual abuse, I have the energy to explain to someone else about what happens if I have not shared the same experience.
I can not have sex with someone of the same gender as the person who abused me. Your
limits need not be so black and white as these, you may not have to be so defined, but is a good idea to use phrases like "must be "and" can not be. " Your personal power within your sexuality and your relationship will be strengthened when you decide what you need, what you're willing to do, and I can not give. Some of my limits now are the opposite of what they were six months ago. Let yourself be flexible depending on how you feel, but also understands and respects what you need now because you really need it NOW.
Rth2310 Red White Green Yellow
Safe Sex for Survivors of Sexual Abuse Part
By Chris Somerville
SUPPORT Taken from fanzine on sale in the Bazaar of the Goddesses or online http://www.dorisdorisdoris.com/zinecatag.html .
In recent years I have read many zines [i] written by people who had survived sexual abuse. No mention of comprehensive information strategies and gave advice on specific problems we find when we want to be sexual. To me, it was my own experience with my sexuality, both inside and outside the context of a sexual relationship with another person, who first helped me understand that I had gone through early sexual trauma. After three years of not sex and thirteen years of trying to forget what had happened, I started having sex again. That's when I broke my reality. Sex erase the illusion that my mind had invented to protect me. It was sex, perverted way, I'd hurt to start. Into terror, returning to my sexuality as my traumas returned, I began to realize that sex could be integral to my healing process.
I've met people who have survived sexual abuse who are afraid to even think about sex. I have met survivors who have sex constantly with anyone. One hurt in two ways. Sexuality is part of the experience human. We need to be touched is part of being animal. The intimacy that we can when we open up and we become vulnerable to the soul nourishes us. We connect the body, helps us discover feelings did not even know we could achieve, connects us to the present moment (what keeps us present in the moment rather than an orgasm?).
why I believe that sex is one of the most effective ways to heal from sexual abuse. You go to bed naked with someone, with yourself, sometimes even enter the body of another person, or you let someone else in your body. Is not it beautiful? It is one of the most powerful experiences that we have, and therefore can affect you both.
I can deal with this, I do not want to continue to avoid, I do not want to continue to avoid living in fear of how I have hurt. Nobody knows how to do yet. We can not have the culture that brought us to give a positive example of sexuality. And we can not expect someone else to come and tell us how. Our best resource we have is ourselves. We need to talk with our friends, our supporters, our directors, our spouses, how have you care about sex. And we can not succumb to our fear of sex.
'll set something. First, I have no training nor am I an expert on these issues. All I have to see what I say are my own experiences as a person who has survived sexual abuse and still sexually active. When I refer to people who have "survived" (and I insist on using that term), I'm talking about someone who at some point has experienced sexual trauma. No matter what happened or remember, if you think that this has been your experience, you are someone who survived. What I have written for you, and also for your sweetie. With the word partner does not just mean a serious relationship, but any person with whom you have sex.
I am a queer man (not heterosexual) who has survived sexual abuse. The couple who have supported me over the past two and half years is a woman. The language and the words I use to talk about this issue were chosen on purpose, and reflect my experiences in the genre. OK, let
[i] Fanzine: Revista craft, very common in the movement Grrrrl
Riot Monday, April 18, 2011
Gay Crusing Places In San Francisco
Consent (Sexual)
The idea of \u200b\u200bconsent must be explicit for clarity on what the other / a / os / as they want or not do sexually, is that the idea to ask is "how rare" also may seem risky, it involves responsibility (and if she says no, I can not do / the idiot / a) ...
Y if you are a fan / to the touch and go, often the questions do not go beyond what music escuchai?.
the idea of \u200b\u200bresponsibility now sounds more than pesky, sounds like history homework, get up early and a lot of things that really are not done for pleasure but out of duty ...
Now, what is gained by asking ? Clarity and certainty that we act ethically and can also increase communication that can ultimately improve the powder, and two-way thing is what you want to ask you for your consent? Well is a sign of affectionate respect, which means that he / possible lover of the night is careful to maintain a relationship free of abuse explicitly.
Seek consent is sexual and kindness can make the difference between a / a moron / a and a / a good lover.
below includes some questions to think about consent taken from the fanzine support available soon in the Library / Library and Bazaar in Goddesses Purisima 251, Room 2 at La Morada. Barrio Bellavista.
The Fanzine support was created by Cindy Crabb an American activist who works to spread the issue of sexual consent and survival in situations of abuse, and is given the job of compiling and translating this material.
"This list of questions will collect in the hopes that would help people to think deeply and help start conversations about consent. I know it's a long list, and not all have good or bad answers, but please read it and honestly think about these questions, one by one. "1. How define consent?
2. Have you talked, sometimes, with your partner (s) or with friends as on consent?
3. Do you know, or have had sex with someone who defines consent in a manner different from you?
4. Have you ever been unsure whether the person wanted to do what they were doing during sex? Did you talk about it? Do you ignore it in the hope that change? Did you continue what you were doing because it gave pleasure and did not want to deal with what I was feeling the other person? Did you continue because you did not want to doubt the other person? Did you continue because you thought it was your duty? How do you feel about the decisions you made?
5. Do you think it is the responsibility of the other person say something if you do not like what you're doing?
6. How could anyone say that what is happening is not right?
7. Only " seek verbal signs or other signals, too?
8. Do you think it is possible to misinterpret silence, thinking it is consent?
9. Have you ever asked someone if it's hard to verbalize when something feels wrong, you should look for signs?
10. questions "Only this kind of thing in a serious relationship, or feel comfortable talking in a fortuitous situation, too?
11. You think about ruining the mood?
12. Do you think that consent may be erotic?
13. Do you think the stories of abuse of people?
14. Do you questions as things progress, or suppose that the original consent mean that all is well?
15. When you manage to get permission once, suppose that after is always right?
16. If someone agrees to something, you assume that everything else is fine, or questions before touching someone differently or take things at a more intense?
17. Do you feel uncomfortable with people they want or need to talk about abuse?, why?
18. Looking for friends with people because you want sex with them afterwards and then let these friendships if the person is not interested in you sexually?
19. Looking for sex with someone even after they have said they just want to be friends?
20. Do you suppose that if someone shows affection are probably interested in you sexually?
21. Do you think of love, sexuality, and personal boundaries? Do you talk about these issues with people? If so, do you speak about these issues only when they want to have sex with someone or talk about them because they think they are important and really want to know?
22. Are you clear / a on your own intentions?
23. Have you ever tried to convince someone about which wavered?
24. Do you think the hesitation is a way of flirting?
25. Are you aware that sometimes it is not?
26. Do you think that if people are promiscuous means you are either objectively, / as, or talk about themselves as a way that would not normally do?
27. Do you think that if a person is promiscuous is less important to have consent?
28. Do you think that if a person dresses a certain way, it's okay to objectify / a?
29. If someone dresses in a way you think it means they want your sexual attention or your approval?
30. Do you understand there may be many other reasons that have nothing to do with you, why that person might want to dress or act in a way you might find sexy?
31. Think it's your responsibility or your role to overcome the hesitation of another person by giving little importance and pressing / a?
32. Have you tried asking someone how you feel? When they do, what / to respect and listen.
33. Have you tried, once, creating a situation that gave you the excuse to touch someone you think would say no if you asked? For example, dancing, getting drunk around that person, falling asleep next to someone, etc..
My personal most hated
34. Do you make people feel `` not-funny''or `` no- released''if they want to prove certain sexual things? Or as he once told me "I carry mine cartridge."
35. Do you feel that being in a relationship with someone, have an obligation to have sex with you?
36. And if you want to abstain from sex for a week? A month? A year?
37. whining or threats "if you're taking the number or type of sex want?
38. Do you think it is good to do something sexual with someone who is sleeping?
39. What if that person is your partner?
40. You think it's important to talk to them first as soon as they are awake?
41. Do you see, of Occasionally, such as your interactions with people or treat them positively or negatively, and where it comes from / where did you learn?
42. Do you act differently when you've been drinking?
43. What are the positive aspects of drinking for you? What are the negative aspects of drinking for you?
44. Have you been sexual with people while these drunk or when they / as they were drunk / as? Did you feel, sometimes, embarrassment or discomfort about it the next day? Does the person you ever slept acted weird to you later?
45. Looking consent in the same way when you're drunk that when you're sober / a?
46. You think it's important to speak the next day with the person who has been sexually affective / a if there was alcohol involved? If not, is because it's uncomfortable or because you think something might have happened should not happen? Is it being just the way things are?
47. Do you think people should take things more lightly?
48. Do you think these questions are repressive and people looking critically at their sexual histories and their way of being normal are conventional and should be released / as?
49. Do you think that the release may be different for different people?
50. How do you react if someone is upset by what you're doing, or do not want to do something? Do you become defensive? Do you feel guilty? Does it end the other person having to take care and be safe, or are able to take a step back and listen, girls and support them, girls and take responsibility for your actions?
51. Would you say you version of the story and try to change the way in which they lived the situation?
52. Do you do things to show your partner you are listening and that you are interested in their ideas about consent or their ideas about what you did?
53. Do you talk about sex and consent when you're in bed?
54. Have you ever violated or abused or tampered with someone sexually? Are you able to think about your behavior? Have you made changes? What kind of changes?
55. Do you feel uncomfortable with your body or your sexuality?
56. have you been abused to sexually?
57. Your own discomfort or your own history of abuse has caused you to act being misused? If so, could you talk about it with someone? Do you think that talking about it would help?
58. Do you avoid talking about the consent or abuse because you're not ready to or because they want to talk about your own sexual abuse?
59. Do you sometimes feel forced to have sex?
60. Do you sometimes feel obliged / a to initiate sex?
61. What if the days, months or years later, someone tells workers they were uncomfortable with what you did? Do / as subject?
62. "initiate conversations about safe sex and contraception (if applicable)?
63. Do you think that something as vague as "I recently reviewed" is enough?
64. Do you take your partners concerns about safe sex and / or contraception seriously?
65. Do you think that if a person wants to have safe sex and the other does not care, it is the responsibility of the person providing the items you care about safe sex?
A friend of mine thinks that there should be a special place in hell for men who do not want to use condoms:
66. Do you think that if a person has a body that can become pregnant and do not want it, you have to focus solely on providing the means for contraception? Do you complain or deny safe sex or type of contraception that your partner wants to use because it reduces your pleasure? Do you try to manipulate your partner about these issues?
67. Do you think that only men abuse?
68. Do you think that a relationship between people of the same gender, only the person abused is more manly?
69. Do you think that there is ongoing work we can do to end sexual violence in our communities?
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