Tuesday, April 19, 2011

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Safe Sex for Survivors of Sexual Abuse Part 2 LIMITS


By Chris Somerville Taken from the fanzine

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can not always choose your limits. The limits tend to settle on their own and work that remains is to challenge them gently as possible. We should be honest with ourselves about what we want, what we are willing to do and what we are unwilling to budge. These are our limits. We base

limits on what we know we need, on sex and relationships, without exception. Naturally, much depends upon where you are. The following are examples of some limitations:

I can not get involved with someone who likes S & M because I know that I can re-traumatize.

just want to have sex with close friends, I can not be in a serious relationship dating now.

relationship with my partner to be monogamous because I find it a long time, careful attention, and trust to create a secure connection that lets me be sexual, then allow another person to engage would be a desecration.

I have to be non-monogamous relationships because any limit imposed on I my life or my sexuality made me feel reminds me trapped and control within the abuse.

I can not be in a relationship with someone who has survived sexual abuse. I can barely with my life, I can not take someone else's.

My partner must be a person who has survived sexual abuse, I have the energy to explain to someone else about what happens if I have not shared the same experience.

I can not have sex with someone of the same gender as the person who abused me. Your

limits need not be so black and white as these, you may not have to be so defined, but is a good idea to use phrases like "must be "and" can not be. " Your personal power within your sexuality and your relationship will be strengthened when you decide what you need, what you're willing to do, and I can not give. Some of my limits now are the opposite of what they were six months ago. Let yourself be flexible depending on how you feel, but also understands and respects what you need now because you really need it NOW.

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