By Chris Somerville
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not underestimate the power of positive relationships with masturbation. It's a way to explore your ability to have a positive relationship with your body, and can be a great way to support you to yourself. Masturbation sexually leaves us to focus on us themselves, rather than treat sex as a service to another person. Nobody tells you what they want, your desires are the ones that take into account. This can help you recognize that you are entitled to your own needs.
As people who have survived sexual abuse of children, our first experience with sex was determined by someone else. As we learned from the beginning that it should be sex, we tend to mimic those patterns in our relationships. If nothing more we explore our sexuality when we are with another person or our own desire to please someone else, confuse the desires of our partners with our own desires.
When we return the focus to ourselves through masturbation, the body learns to find one's desire. Through fantasy and touching you in different ways, and then trying with another person, you find more information and ideas about what you want and that makes you attractive.
also, importantly, if you have fantasies of rape or think molesting children is a good idea to have fantasies about it while you masturbate. You have to admit it and masturbating is a good way, because then you do on your own terms, one hundred percent. If you do not recognize these desires, and refuse, they become dangerous. If you masturbate while thinking that you are raped, that rape, child abuse or anything else gives you more like it, you take the next step and talk to someone for help.
I think most people who have survived sexual abuse need to develop a routine or ritual to work about the abuse. Masturbation gives us the opportunity to heal the body mind.
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