By Chris Somerville
SUPPORT Taken from fanzine on sale in the Bazaar of the Goddesses or online http://www.dorisdorisdoris.com/zinecatag.html .
In recent years I have read many zines [i] written by people who had survived sexual abuse. No mention of comprehensive information strategies and gave advice on specific problems we find when we want to be sexual. To me, it was my own experience with my sexuality, both inside and outside the context of a sexual relationship with another person, who first helped me understand that I had gone through early sexual trauma. After three years of not sex and thirteen years of trying to forget what had happened, I started having sex again. That's when I broke my reality. Sex erase the illusion that my mind had invented to protect me. It was sex, perverted way, I'd hurt to start. Into terror, returning to my sexuality as my traumas returned, I began to realize that sex could be integral to my healing process.
I've met people who have survived sexual abuse who are afraid to even think about sex. I have met survivors who have sex constantly with anyone. One hurt in two ways. Sexuality is part of the experience human. We need to be touched is part of being animal. The intimacy that we can when we open up and we become vulnerable to the soul nourishes us. We connect the body, helps us discover feelings did not even know we could achieve, connects us to the present moment (what keeps us present in the moment rather than an orgasm?).
why I believe that sex is one of the most effective ways to heal from sexual abuse. You go to bed naked with someone, with yourself, sometimes even enter the body of another person, or you let someone else in your body. Is not it beautiful? It is one of the most powerful experiences that we have, and therefore can affect you both.
I can deal with this, I do not want to continue to avoid, I do not want to continue to avoid living in fear of how I have hurt. Nobody knows how to do yet. We can not have the culture that brought us to give a positive example of sexuality. And we can not expect someone else to come and tell us how. Our best resource we have is ourselves. We need to talk with our friends, our supporters, our directors, our spouses, how have you care about sex. And we can not succumb to our fear of sex.
'll set something. First, I have no training nor am I an expert on these issues. All I have to see what I say are my own experiences as a person who has survived sexual abuse and still sexually active. When I refer to people who have "survived" (and I insist on using that term), I'm talking about someone who at some point has experienced sexual trauma. No matter what happened or remember, if you think that this has been your experience, you are someone who survived. What I have written for you, and also for your sweetie. With the word partner does not just mean a serious relationship, but any person with whom you have sex.
I am a queer man (not heterosexual) who has survived sexual abuse. The couple who have supported me over the past two and half years is a woman. The language and the words I use to talk about this issue were chosen on purpose, and reflect my experiences in the genre. OK, let
[i] Fanzine: Revista craft, very common in the movement Grrrrl
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